How do I create a realistic shot list for my photographer?

Separate must, haves from nice, to, haves

List essential moments: first look (if you want one), ceremony, first kiss, family formals, first dance, cake cutting. These happen at specific times and can't be repeated. Below that, add secondary shots: details, getting, ready moments, candids during dinner. Be realistic, most photographers can capture 60, 80% of your wish list if you have 8 hours of coverage. Anything after that is bonus.

Include family and group combos

Specify which family combinations you need photographed, sometimes it's obvious, sometimes not. Do you want photos with both families together? Your side only? Your mom with you? Kids with grandparents? Write these out. Give your photographer a reference photo or list of names so they can identify people quickly on the day.

Align your list with timing

If your ceremony is at 4 PM and reception starts at 5 PM, you won't have time for 30 minutes of formal family photos. Be honest about your schedule and your photographer's capacity. A realistic shot list is far more valuable than an impossible one. Your photographer will appreciate specificity and will deliver better results when they know exactly what matters to you.